When it comes to our sex lives, we tend to focus on how much we’re getting rather than why we aren’t ‘winning over’ our partner(s). This applies both to established relationships and casual couplings. And both factors are affected by our sense of attraction. For this article, we’re going to focus on heterosexual pairings, simply because they’ve been studied more frequently. Dr. Daniel Conroy-Beam and Dr. David Buss developed a mathematical model based on Euclidian distance in an attempt to study attraction.

Their model puts together 23 factors of attraction and …

Most people gauge other people’s sex lives in terms of frequency. They compare their own satisfaction against statistics like ‘married couples have sex three times a week’, then feel inadequate about their own numbers. Studies suggest all couples – married or not – have sex an average of once a week. The same statistic applies to single, unattached people. That said, ‘normal’ is relative. Some people have sex once a month, others barely have sex at all, and yet these people may still describe their sex lives as happy.

So the …

We all wonder how much sex other people are having, worrying whether our own frequency is below par. Unfortunately, this focus on quantity over quantity deflects from whether we’re enjoying the sex itself, and what the reasons are for its (in)frequency.
Lately, statistics are showing that divorce rates are lower, but that marriage rates are lower too. This matters because urban legend claims married couples have less sex than singles. A 1990 study placed the average number of sexual encounters at 63 per year. Another …

We often use intimacy as a euphemism for sex, but it has its own definition. It can mean harmony, closeness, friendship, familiarity, trust, privacy, relaxation. For many people, those words – and the interactions they foster – are necessary before sex can happen. So before intensely researching how to last longer in bed, look into creating intimacy with your partner. It could benefit your sex life far more than tantra tutorials.

We’re generally living longer, and gender roles are shifting, so marriage and monogamy are no longer the norms. Instead, …

For the average man, his biggest sexual challenge is finding an early ejaculation solution. For a woman, the problem is getting interested in sex in the first place. This is confirmed by sexuality researcher Rosemary Basson, Ph.D.She heads the Sexual Medicine Programme at the University of British Columbia.
Fortunately, self-help books make a difference, and women are generally more receptive to them than men. It has to be the right book though, and Laurie B. Mintz’s A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex (2009) …

Language is a powerful tool, and how we use it not only expresses deep-seated attitudes, but also influences the behaviour of others. The term sexuality, for example, has a lot of weight behind it. And none of that weight has anything to do with the word’s meaning. We use it as a blanket term for sexual orientation, libido, gender, and many other tangential terms. These words are in no way synonymous, so let’s start by differentiating them.

Sex (noun) – visible characteristics (especially of genitals) …

It’s hard to go against science, especially after studies have proven – definitively – that people who enjoy good, regular sex live longer, happier, more fulfilled lives. Sex improves mood and self-esteem, as well as general well-being. By the same token, problems like premature ejaculation can enhance stress levels, and that’s not good for your health. One of the first benefits of a healthy sex life is ‘sexercise’.
Depending on which source you ask (and given the fact that sex is relative), men burn roughly 4 …

The modern world tells us sex is nothing more than a meeting of mutually aroused bodies. Many of us view it that way, especially in casual dating scenarios. However, the art and science of arousal make it far more complicated.
But if you think about it, you don’t want to have sex with just anyone, because not everybody can arouse you. They have the tools to do it, but for some reason, those tools don’t work on you. Along the same vein, sex – even …

Psychologist and philosopher Eric Fromm has a beautiful thought about love. He says, “Love isn’t something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling, it is a practice.” In some ways, this is true of sex. If we were to consistently ‘do what comes naturally’ as happens in many patriarchal societies, sex would only last a few seconds, and one partner feel unsatisfied with Lasting Sex. And yet in other circumstances, what comes naturally …

When the average man Googles ‘how to last longer in bed’ he probably expects advice on technique and tantricks. He is likely to scroll past anything that offers mundane tips on how to live a healthy, relaxed life. And yet stress has a proven link with poor bedroom performance. At the most basic level, it’s hard to focus on love-making when you’re worried, but at a more organic level, stress can lead to lifestyle diseases like high blood pressure, strokes, heart attacks, and others. These all …